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Friendships. 

This ones about friendship. 

I’ve been told that you find out who your real friends are when you get married, but I had no idea how true that was until I started planning my own. 

If you accept the bride and grooms request to be in their bridal party, you’re accepting the financial obligation that it is. You can’t get mad when you have to spend money. You can’t get mad when asked to participate in a wedding related event. You can’t get mad when things are required of you.

Weddings are expensive. Being a part of a wedding is also expensive. It’s not a surprise, so don’t act surprised when you have to pay for things. 

Also, it helps NOT to lie to the couple at all. You never know, they may actually know the truth before you lie. And then you look like a fool. 

And for the record, it’s really shitty if you’re the only bridesmaid that doesn’t participate or doesn’t make themselves part of the group. The bride picked you for a reason, don’t make her regret it. Being a bridesmaid is an honor because it means you’re important to the bride. She should be important enough to you to to be treated with respect.  

With that said, get your damn hair and makeup done because regardless of what you think about you skills, they’re nowhere near good enough to be professional. and make sure you’re there when everyone’s getting ready. Don’t come late. 
Remember, it’s not about you. Don’t be a jerk and make the bride fire you. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared 

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Don’t Invite Eveyone You’ve Ever Met…

For the love of god, stop inviting me to weddings. 


I mean this in the nicest way possible… if there’s a nice way to say this. I feel like I’m working just to be able to give reasonable wedding gifts, and I’m no longer ‘about that life’.

And FYI, I swear to GOD if people don’t give me back what I’ve given them as a gift, I’m going to be so angry. Some of you are thinking ‘Wow, that’s selfish,’ and that’s ok because the ones that are thinking ‘Yes girl, preach!’ are the ones who truly get me. 

Weddings are so expensive. You never get back what you spend unless you’re fortunate enough to have parents help or pay for the whole thing (and if you are, I’m jealous!). And after all is said and done, you could have had a house. 

Thankfully we already have a house. 

Stupidly we decided to get a house at the same time as planning and paying for a wedding. 

I make bad choices, and I’ve accepted that. 



Anyway, if we haven’t spoken in a year, whether we’re related or not, don’t invite me to the wedding. I don’t need to be there. You know it. I know it. We’ve drifted apart. It’s probably because I don’t like you. It could be because you don’t like me. But let’s be honest, I’m a gem. You like me.
 
I’m kind of joking… but not 100%. 

Anyway, I’m going to give you the hard truth. If you don’t hangout with people regularly, odds are they don’t want to be invited to your wedding. In the last two years, I’ve been to a few dozen weddings. They’re all the same. Every bride is beautiful. The food is mediocre at best. The DJ’s are usually pretty good. The bands are decent. Photographers should be given awards for capturing love that isn’t always there. And if you don’t invite me to your wedding, I’m going to live, I swear. 

(Side Note: if you’re having a really cool, non-traditional wedding, still invite me. I like new things.)

Also, don’t act like saving money isn’t the best thing on earth when you’re planning a wedding. I’m helping you save money by not being invited. That’s TWO plates you’re saving money on. The least you can do is thank me. 

So, with all that being said, cool it with the invitations. I’m poor. I have no social life. I can barely afford food right now. 

We’ll see how things are after my wedding, which you probably weren’t invited to because we haven’t spoken since Hugh school, when I no longer owe every red cent to a vendor or the venue. I mean, I probably still won’t want to go, but you can ask. 


Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared

P.S. This blog was written with excessive sarcasm so don’t get your panties in a knot!

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Seating Charts…

Seating charts are the Devils work. 
Before you’ve done one, you think to yourself, how hard could this be? You put people at a table, there’s a table maximum, and you move to the next. 

Wrong. 

It’s hard. It’s especially hard if your parents get involved and tell you who can sit with who and who can’t. 

It’s EVEN HARDER if you come from an Italian family that is in the middle of a disagreement. 

Here’s what happens…
You get X number of tables and those tables usually sit 8-12 people, depending on venue and table size. That’s cool… until you put the people who CAN sit together at one table and get tables of 7 or 13… and get no groups that can fill in those gaps, or you get groups that will disown you if separate them. 

In the event that your only issue is fitting people at a table and not taking into account who they are and are not speaking to at the moment, consider yourself super lucky. 

I will tell you this, you will be so grateful for people who RSVP alone. These are the ones you will use to plug up the holes. They’re life savers. And anyone brave enough to go to a wedding alone will be able to hold their own at any table you sit them at. 

Take a deep breath, have some wine, not too much because the seating chart does have to make sense, and work it out on paper. 

It will eventually workout, hopefully before the wedding. Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



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Hidden Fees!


So, you find a venue you absolutely love and the price is only $109 per person! That’s amazing! That’s so much cheaper than other places that are $120, $150, $200 per person!

While the base price IS much lower than other venues, it doesn’t mean that you’re paying $109 per person. 

Not. Even. Close. 

Ever notice the two plus signs next to the per person price? That means plus tax and plus gratuity. That $109 per person is actually $144 per person when all is said and done. 

I bet you forgot to budget for that. I know I did! And it was a terrible surprise! After the initial shock, I had to recalculate and re-budget everything. Don’t get me wrong, I knew it would be more than a flat $109 because everything has tax but I wasn’t prepared for an additional $35 per plate! 

While we’re talking about per plate charges, weddings would be so much more affordable if it was socially acceptable to NOT have an open bar. My base price would have been $69 instead of $109! Open bar adds $40 per person. 

Highway robbery if you ask me. Give me wine and I’m good. I don’t need the whole bar. (P.S. Some places offer a beer and wine option for half the price of a full open bar).

BUT, it’s really crappy if you to expect a gift (in New York, it’s usually monetary) and then also expect people to open their wallets to buy their own drinks. That’s just my opinion. That and I know I’ve talked shit about people who haven’t had open bar because it’s kind of tacky. Unless you’re doing a super non-traditional wedding not at a venue, then it’s totally cool. But seriously, don’t have your wedding at a beautiful venue and then expect your guests to pay for overpriced drinks at the bar, that’s not cool. 

Let’s talk about some other fees. Like the addition of ANYTHING to your menu. Oh you want to add some vegetables or a meat and cheese platter to your cocktail hour? $5 per person. You want a pasta added to your reception? $5 per person. No big deal, it’s only $5 per person… but multiply that by 170 people and that’s almost another $1000. 

At this point, I’ve already sold my soul for the wedding so where am I going to pull this extra money from? If you say, ‘From your money saving tips post!’, I love you, but I’ve already saved all that I can, not including my sanity. 

Anyway, just be mindful when budgeting for your big day. Get all the facts and figures AFTER tax because that will make a huge difference for you and make the headache slightly less painful. 

Wine also helps the headache, but you already know how I feel about wine. 


Much love and good luck ladies and gents!


A.Squared

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Wedding Disasters…

Everyone says that something will inevitably go wrong when planning your wedding… and I’ve been paranoid about that for the last year. 

Well, the paranoia is over because my my centerpieces were completely destroyed. My moms friend picked them up because she was going to bedazzle them for me, because she’s an angel, and someone rear-ended her on the way home. 

All of my beautiful GLASS centerpieces. Ruined. The centerpieces that I got for $150 flat for 17. I had gotten an amazing deal and jus like that… they’re gone. 

Now, we’re 5 weeks out to to the day, and I have no idea what we’re going to do. We’re strapped for cash because final payments need to be made, and I’ll never find anything that’s as perfect as what I had found. Anything now will be something I settle on because it’ll have to be cheap and it’s lost definitely last minute. 

BUT, the silver lining here is that at the end of the day, whether we have centerpieces or favors or cake or not, or if it monsoons or snows or whatever, I’m still marrying the man of my dreams. No matter what could go wrong, the love of my life will be at the end of the isle waiting for me. 

So ladies, whatever will be will be. A lot of things are going to be out of your control. Let it go. Remember the wedding is about marrying your soulmate. It’s not about all the bells and whistles that cost us a fortune and make us cut ourselves to sleep at night. 

Haha. 

Take a deep breath. Have a tall glass of wine. It’s going to be ok. 



Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

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Invitations/RSVP’s… Part 3?


Ok.

Here’s the thing. Getting an invitation to a wedding doesn’t mean you get to ask for special things, unless you have a food allergy/need. That you can have without a problem.

What you can’t have is an extra invitation for people you want to invite. If you want to pay for this 20+ grand wedding, by all means invite whoever you want, but if you’re not, kindly shut up. 

If it’s an adults only wedding, please don’t ask to bring your kids because the answer is no. If you were given an invitation without a guest, it’s ok to ask why but don’t demand you get to bring a guest. The reason you didn’t get one is because you’re probably not dating anyone or the person you are dating is a terrible human being. I mean, I don’t know you but those are two pretty good reasons. 


And to the brides and the grooms out there, because you too mess up on occasion, for the love of god, have an open bar. If you don’t, you can’t really expect people to give you a nice gift (in NY, we do cash). You can’t expect people to come to your wedding, give you cash, and then continue to open their wallets to enjoy themselves… or get through your horrifically boring wedding. Just sayin’. 


Keep it classy. Everyone. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


A.Squared

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Let’s Get Real About RSVP’s


Basically, don’t be a jerk. 

If you get a wedding invitation, respond. If you know you can’t go, RSVP right away instead of waiting til the last minute. 1) The bride and groom will actually be relieved they’re saving money because weddings are so incredibly expensive and 2) It’s a dick move not to respond. If you can’t understand this logic, wait til you get married and don’t complain when it takes forever to get your guests responses back. 

Another thing, if you get an invitation from someone and you don’t feel like you should have, for whatever reason, don’t be an asshole about it. Don’t contact the bride and/or groom to let them know you’re not friends and question why you were even invited. It makes you look like a piece of trash, and it makes the bride and groom feel terrible because they clearly valued the friendship you all had more than you did. 

The bottom line is, RSVP as soon as you get the invitation if you like the couple that is inviting you. Invitations go out early enough that you most likely don’t have anything planned that day so, why are you waiting? You get the RSVP card and an envelope with a stamp on it so all you have to do is put it back in the mailbox. And likewise, if you open an invitation and think to yourself ‘Wow, I hate these people,’ RSVP no. Period. 

Just do it. Don’t be a dick. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

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Guestbook!


Don’t get a boring guestbook that people will inevitably forget to sign… or that you’re going to forget about. It’s going to collect dust in your attic and you probably won’t be able to read most of he handwriting in it anyway because people will be signing at weird angles because the tables a weird height and there’s no chair. 

Opt for a more modern version of the guestbook. 

Here are a few of my favorite ideas:


These are great alternatives AND you can hang them in your home as decorations and enjoy them FOREVER!

Plus, they’re interactive and really fun. And they’ll even give your wedding a little extra flair. 

After all, no one wants to be boring, especially on their wedding day!

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

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Everyone Has Something to Say…


Everything you’re doing is wrong and your wedding is going to be a disaster…
Well, that’s what everyone else wants you to think because they obviously know what you want and what you should have on your special day better than you do right?

Wrong. 

People are going to question everything you do if it’s not like their wedding, or not like a traditional wedding… so prepare yourself for that right now. They’ll also make suggestions that they will be offended about later because you didn’t take them.

#reallife #thanksbutnothanks #donttellmehowtolivemylife

Anyway, generally people like to think they’re smarter than they are and they also enjoy their own voices. I’ve learned in my years of dealing with unsavory people that the minute you start talking about yourself, self-centered people tend to shut up and leave you alone. And the people trying to stick their noses in your wedding are usually self-centered.

If you don’t use a Limo because, after all, they’re not required for a wedding-especially if your ceremony is at the same location of your venue-you will be judged. If you chose to use paper flowers instead of real ones because the logical part of your brain couldn’t see ripping $7,500 to bits, you’re going to be judged. A short wedding dress? You must be insane. No sit down dinner? Is this even a wedding?

But, don’t be fooled, if your wedding is by-the-books perfect, you’ll still be judged. There will always be a miserable hag at every wedding trying to make everyone else miserable too so please, don’t listen and don’t take it personally. 

Not everyone gets to meet their soulmate in life. 

There will be jealous people too, obviously, because your fabulous. And also because maybe they can’t afford something or they wish they had a fiancé as awesome as you do. They’ll make comments like ‘I’m never having a wedding, it’s such a waste of money’, or ‘Why did you need that? That’s excessive/unnecessary’, or ‘I’d never spend that much on that.’ Keep your composure because they’re already unhappy and suffering on the inside. 

And there will always be one person who compares your wedding to someone else’s. You’ll hear it multiple times while planning and probably long after it’s over because some people can’t understand that you’re your own person, so try to tune it out. Or, if you’re bold, which girlfriend (snap, snap) I know you are, stand up to this monster and say so-and-so’s wedding wasn’t mine for a reason!

Keep your head up and do you! And if you’re ever unsure, have some wine and enjoy some liquid confidence to get you through wedding planning. 


#winedowndaily

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared