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Invitations/RSVP’s… Part 3?


Here’s the thing. Getting an invitation to a wedding doesn’t mean you get to ask for special things, unless you have a food allergy/need. That you can have without a problem.

What you can’t have is an extra invitation for people you want to invite. If you want to pay for this 20+ grand wedding, by all means invite whoever you want, but if you’re not, kindly shut up. 

If it’s an adults only wedding, please don’t ask to bring your kids because the answer is no. If you were given an invitation without a guest, it’s ok to ask why but don’t demand you get to bring a guest. The reason you didn’t get one is because you’re probably not dating anyone or the person you are dating is a terrible human being. I mean, I don’t know you but those are two pretty good reasons. 

And to the brides and the grooms out there, because you too mess up on occasion, for the love of god, have an open bar. If you don’t, you can’t really expect people to give you a nice gift (in NY, we do cash). You can’t expect people to come to your wedding, give you cash, and then continue to open their wallets to enjoy themselves… or get through your horrifically boring wedding. Just sayin’. 

Keep it classy. Everyone. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


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Let’s Get Real About RSVP’s

Basically, don’t be a jerk. 

If you get a wedding invitation, respond. If you know you can’t go, RSVP right away instead of waiting til the last minute. 1) The bride and groom will actually be relieved they’re saving money because weddings are so incredibly expensive and 2) It’s a dick move not to respond. If you can’t understand this logic, wait til you get married and don’t complain when it takes forever to get your guests responses back. 

Another thing, if you get an invitation from someone and you don’t feel like you should have, for whatever reason, don’t be an asshole about it. Don’t contact the bride and/or groom to let them know you’re not friends and question why you were even invited. It makes you look like a piece of trash, and it makes the bride and groom feel terrible because they clearly valued the friendship you all had more than you did. 

The bottom line is, RSVP as soon as you get the invitation if you like the couple that is inviting you. Invitations go out early enough that you most likely don’t have anything planned that day so, why are you waiting? You get the RSVP card and an envelope with a stamp on it so all you have to do is put it back in the mailbox. And likewise, if you open an invitation and think to yourself ‘Wow, I hate these people,’ RSVP no. Period. 

Just do it. Don’t be a dick. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


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Don’t get a boring guestbook that people will inevitably forget to sign… or that you’re going to forget about. It’s going to collect dust in your attic and you probably won’t be able to read most of he handwriting in it anyway because people will be signing at weird angles because the tables a weird height and there’s no chair. 

Opt for a more modern version of the guestbook. 

Here are a few of my favorite ideas:

These are great alternatives AND you can hang them in your home as decorations and enjoy them FOREVER!

Plus, they’re interactive and really fun. And they’ll even give your wedding a little extra flair. 

After all, no one wants to be boring, especially on their wedding day!

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


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Everyone Has Something to Say…

Everything you’re doing is wrong and your wedding is going to be a disaster…
Well, that’s what everyone else wants you to think because they obviously know what you want and what you should have on your special day better than you do right?


People are going to question everything you do if it’s not like their wedding, or not like a traditional wedding… so prepare yourself for that right now. They’ll also make suggestions that they will be offended about later because you didn’t take them.

#reallife #thanksbutnothanks #donttellmehowtolivemylife

Anyway, generally people like to think they’re smarter than they are and they also enjoy their own voices. I’ve learned in my years of dealing with unsavory people that the minute you start talking about yourself, self-centered people tend to shut up and leave you alone. And the people trying to stick their noses in your wedding are usually self-centered.

If you don’t use a Limo because, after all, they’re not required for a wedding-especially if your ceremony is at the same location of your venue-you will be judged. If you chose to use paper flowers instead of real ones because the logical part of your brain couldn’t see ripping $7,500 to bits, you’re going to be judged. A short wedding dress? You must be insane. No sit down dinner? Is this even a wedding?

But, don’t be fooled, if your wedding is by-the-books perfect, you’ll still be judged. There will always be a miserable hag at every wedding trying to make everyone else miserable too so please, don’t listen and don’t take it personally. 

Not everyone gets to meet their soulmate in life. 

There will be jealous people too, obviously, because your fabulous. And also because maybe they can’t afford something or they wish they had a fiancé as awesome as you do. They’ll make comments like ‘I’m never having a wedding, it’s such a waste of money’, or ‘Why did you need that? That’s excessive/unnecessary’, or ‘I’d never spend that much on that.’ Keep your composure because they’re already unhappy and suffering on the inside. 

And there will always be one person who compares your wedding to someone else’s. You’ll hear it multiple times while planning and probably long after it’s over because some people can’t understand that you’re your own person, so try to tune it out. Or, if you’re bold, which girlfriend (snap, snap) I know you are, stand up to this monster and say so-and-so’s wedding wasn’t mine for a reason!

Keep your head up and do you! And if you’re ever unsure, have some wine and enjoy some liquid confidence to get you through wedding planning. 


Much love and good luck ladies and gents,