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Friendships. 

This ones about friendship. 

I’ve been told that you find out who your real friends are when you get married, but I had no idea how true that was until I started planning my own. 

If you accept the bride and grooms request to be in their bridal party, you’re accepting the financial obligation that it is. You can’t get mad when you have to spend money. You can’t get mad when asked to participate in a wedding related event. You can’t get mad when things are required of you.

Weddings are expensive. Being a part of a wedding is also expensive. It’s not a surprise, so don’t act surprised when you have to pay for things. 

Also, it helps NOT to lie to the couple at all. You never know, they may actually know the truth before you lie. And then you look like a fool. 

And for the record, it’s really shitty if you’re the only bridesmaid that doesn’t participate or doesn’t make themselves part of the group. The bride picked you for a reason, don’t make her regret it. Being a bridesmaid is an honor because it means you’re important to the bride. She should be important enough to you to to be treated with respect.  

With that said, get your damn hair and makeup done because regardless of what you think about you skills, they’re nowhere near good enough to be professional. and make sure you’re there when everyone’s getting ready. Don’t come late. 
Remember, it’s not about you. Don’t be a jerk and make the bride fire you. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared 

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Seating Charts…

Seating charts are the Devils work. 
Before you’ve done one, you think to yourself, how hard could this be? You put people at a table, there’s a table maximum, and you move to the next. 

Wrong. 

It’s hard. It’s especially hard if your parents get involved and tell you who can sit with who and who can’t. 

It’s EVEN HARDER if you come from an Italian family that is in the middle of a disagreement. 

Here’s what happens…
You get X number of tables and those tables usually sit 8-12 people, depending on venue and table size. That’s cool… until you put the people who CAN sit together at one table and get tables of 7 or 13… and get no groups that can fill in those gaps, or you get groups that will disown you if separate them. 

In the event that your only issue is fitting people at a table and not taking into account who they are and are not speaking to at the moment, consider yourself super lucky. 

I will tell you this, you will be so grateful for people who RSVP alone. These are the ones you will use to plug up the holes. They’re life savers. And anyone brave enough to go to a wedding alone will be able to hold their own at any table you sit them at. 

Take a deep breath, have some wine, not too much because the seating chart does have to make sense, and work it out on paper. 

It will eventually workout, hopefully before the wedding. Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared

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Cards or a Board?

Escort cards or an escort board? That’s the question. 

I have found that they cost roughly the same. They both equal out to a waste of money… but you have to have something so you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. 


The cards are cool, but they get lost before your guests make it to their table… at least that’s what happens to me. 


The boards are cool, but what are you going to do with it after the wedding besides throw it out? 

You have to pick which one you find more appealing. I’m personally going to go with a printed board because I have the handwriting of a 3rd grader learning cursive, and having them printed could become costly. 

Take a deep breath, and just make a choice. It’s one of those little details no one talks about or remembers, so do what makes you happy!

And hey, if your family is half as nosey as mine, they’ll LOVE the board so they can gossip about who is sitting where!


Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen!





A.Squared

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Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



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Hidden Fees!


So, you find a venue you absolutely love and the price is only $109 per person! That’s amazing! That’s so much cheaper than other places that are $120, $150, $200 per person!

While the base price IS much lower than other venues, it doesn’t mean that you’re paying $109 per person. 

Not. Even. Close. 

Ever notice the two plus signs next to the per person price? That means plus tax and plus gratuity. That $109 per person is actually $144 per person when all is said and done. 

I bet you forgot to budget for that. I know I did! And it was a terrible surprise! After the initial shock, I had to recalculate and re-budget everything. Don’t get me wrong, I knew it would be more than a flat $109 because everything has tax but I wasn’t prepared for an additional $35 per plate! 

While we’re talking about per plate charges, weddings would be so much more affordable if it was socially acceptable to NOT have an open bar. My base price would have been $69 instead of $109! Open bar adds $40 per person. 

Highway robbery if you ask me. Give me wine and I’m good. I don’t need the whole bar. (P.S. Some places offer a beer and wine option for half the price of a full open bar).

BUT, it’s really crappy if you to expect a gift (in New York, it’s usually monetary) and then also expect people to open their wallets to buy their own drinks. That’s just my opinion. That and I know I’ve talked shit about people who haven’t had open bar because it’s kind of tacky. Unless you’re doing a super non-traditional wedding not at a venue, then it’s totally cool. But seriously, don’t have your wedding at a beautiful venue and then expect your guests to pay for overpriced drinks at the bar, that’s not cool. 

Let’s talk about some other fees. Like the addition of ANYTHING to your menu. Oh you want to add some vegetables or a meat and cheese platter to your cocktail hour? $5 per person. You want a pasta added to your reception? $5 per person. No big deal, it’s only $5 per person… but multiply that by 170 people and that’s almost another $1000. 

At this point, I’ve already sold my soul for the wedding so where am I going to pull this extra money from? If you say, ‘From your money saving tips post!’, I love you, but I’ve already saved all that I can, not including my sanity. 

Anyway, just be mindful when budgeting for your big day. Get all the facts and figures AFTER tax because that will make a huge difference for you and make the headache slightly less painful. 

Wine also helps the headache, but you already know how I feel about wine. 


Much love and good luck ladies and gents!


A.Squared

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Weddings Bring Out The Worst In People. 

Shout out to the friends who you don’t have to be in constant contact with. 
Having a wedding really brings out the worst in people. It certainly brings out the best in some people, but what you don’t hear about is how horrible people are… people that you thought were friends and even people you’re related to so, don’t be surprised if you get let down.

I’m not saying this to be mean or ruin your special day, I’m saying it because no one told me (and the other half of A.Squared) and we were blindsided by both family and ‘friends’. 

When you have a wedding, it’s supposed to be the happiest time in your life, but there are a lot of bumps along the way. Imagine flying down a Rocky Mountain in a little red wagon, because it’s comparable to that. 

So now, I’ll share with you our experiences.

I invited a couple to my wedding who I thought we were friends with. When asking for their new address, they made it very, very clear we weren’t friends anymore. Ok, cool. But it didn’t stop there. They proceeded to throw stuff in our face that had no connection to the invitation itself or them being invited, things that had nothing to do with them and things that were over 1-1.5 years old. I was upset at first about the whole thing because they knew what my circumstances were and disregarded them, but now, I’m relieved. Two less people to pay for and toxicity is gone from my life. 

My partner had family issues. I won’t get into too much detail but basically her future sister-in-law ruins everything, and her future mother and father-in-law make everything difficult, including withholding money from them to finish paying off the wedding. Money they were promised, that was acquired at a special party to raise money for their wedding. 


The point here is, weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people and there’s nothing you can do about it. You have to let it roll of your back and roll with the punches because they’re going to keep coming no matter what you do. Grab a glass of wine and let it go. 

Remember that it’s your day. You’re the most important person and whatever you want goes. Don’t be afraid to speak up and take charge. Don’t let anyone take anything away from you or your day. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,


A.Squared

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Invitations/RSVP’s… Part 3?


Ok.

Here’s the thing. Getting an invitation to a wedding doesn’t mean you get to ask for special things, unless you have a food allergy/need. That you can have without a problem.

What you can’t have is an extra invitation for people you want to invite. If you want to pay for this 20+ grand wedding, by all means invite whoever you want, but if you’re not, kindly shut up. 

If it’s an adults only wedding, please don’t ask to bring your kids because the answer is no. If you were given an invitation without a guest, it’s ok to ask why but don’t demand you get to bring a guest. The reason you didn’t get one is because you’re probably not dating anyone or the person you are dating is a terrible human being. I mean, I don’t know you but those are two pretty good reasons. 


And to the brides and the grooms out there, because you too mess up on occasion, for the love of god, have an open bar. If you don’t, you can’t really expect people to give you a nice gift (in NY, we do cash). You can’t expect people to come to your wedding, give you cash, and then continue to open their wallets to enjoy themselves… or get through your horrifically boring wedding. Just sayin’. 


Keep it classy. Everyone. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


A.Squared

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Guestbook!


Don’t get a boring guestbook that people will inevitably forget to sign… or that you’re going to forget about. It’s going to collect dust in your attic and you probably won’t be able to read most of he handwriting in it anyway because people will be signing at weird angles because the tables a weird height and there’s no chair. 

Opt for a more modern version of the guestbook. 

Here are a few of my favorite ideas:


These are great alternatives AND you can hang them in your home as decorations and enjoy them FOREVER!

Plus, they’re interactive and really fun. And they’ll even give your wedding a little extra flair. 

After all, no one wants to be boring, especially on their wedding day!

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

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The Feels…


I know its been a while since we’ve been back to update you on whats going on in life but, with two weddings coming up, just a few months apart, we’ve been a little busy!

Anyway, I was just reflecting on life and it’s pretty intense.

So many friends have come and gone, friends I thought I would have forever, and it blows my mind. There are still moments where I wish I could call up one of my old best friends just to tell them something that happened, and then I remember, sadly, that I haven’t spoken to her in… years. And then, I remember again that it wasn’t my fault that the friendship ended. It was a mutual decision, though unspoken, that just unfolded before us before we knew what happened. One day we woke up and four years passed us by without a single word. Still, all this time later, it stings.

Relationships. When I look back on all of the guys I dated before I found my future husband, half the time I wonder what I was thinking and the other half… my only excuse is I must have been drunk. Don’t get me wrong, some of them were great and they taught me lots of things like what I don’t want and how to put my foot down to get what I deserve. I truly believe that all of those relationships that went horribly wrong helped me grow as a person, made me stronger, and made me understand what I deserve and what I need, and a few years ago, I found exactly that. If I would have met my fiance any sooner, I don’t think I would have been the same person, and I don’t think we would have been as perfectly compatible as we are. So, every miserable jerk that I dated and every one that was a good guy has set me up for the perfect guy, and I couldn’t be happier or luckier to be with him today.

Now, in just a few months I’ll get to marry the most perfect guy I could have ever asked for, who has been with me through the hardest of times, who I love more than I thought possible.

So, the advice I have after all of this is, if you feel somethings wrong, it probably is, so move on. If you feel he isn’t giving you 100% or treating you the way you deserve to be treated, move on. If he doesn’t go out of his way to make sure you know he loves you, move on. Life is too short to stay in a relationship hoping that it will get better. It probably wont because at this point, you’ve both already fallen into rolls that are too hard to change.

Don’t give up. Wait for the man who sweeps you off of your feet and makes you feel as beautiful and amazing as you are.

 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

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Graduate School

Going for your masters degree online is one of the most annoying things in the entire world. Like, is it even worth it to have a decent job anymore?

Group projects? I’m a f*cking adult capable of doing my own work. Why do I have to engage in this preposterous activity and also rely on complete strangers to carry their own weight?


And then when they don’t because they’re useless, I have to pick up the slack and they still get credit even though I filled out a complaint form with supporting documents such as emails and text messages with them admitting to not doing any work!


I’m a little bitter, if you couldn’t tell. 

Moving on…

The discussions. Please, kill me. I can only respond to so many ridiculous posts. If the initial post is thoughtless or incoherent, how am I supposed to respond? I don’t even know what you’re saying, so I can’t possibly answer you… but I have to have a minimum of 8 responses done per week, on 4 or more different days. So it’s a struggle just to make 8, and just to be inconvenient, they can’t all be done on one day. Thanks. Thanks for making online classes more annoying by creating an ‘attendance’ tracker. 

Speaking of discussions, they’re discussions. They’re not ‘copy the entire chapter from the online book and post it as your discussion’. I get super irritated when a post is too long and it fills up more than the entire screen, causing the blue ‘unread’ dot to stay present on the thread. 

I might have a touch of OCD. 

Actually I have OCD. I DID A GROUP PROJECT ON IT LAST WEEK!

For the love of god, if you’re going for your masters, you should just be smarter. Period. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared