Adulting · Fake friends · Family · friends · Growing up · In-laws · Love · Mean girls · Opinions · Wedding · wedding invitations · Wedding Planning

Weddings Bring Out The Worst In People. 

Shout out to the friends who you don’t have to be in constant contact with. 
Having a wedding really brings out the worst in people. It certainly brings out the best in some people, but what you don’t hear about is how horrible people are… people that you thought were friends and even people you’re related to so, don’t be surprised if you get let down.

I’m not saying this to be mean or ruin your special day, I’m saying it because no one told me (and the other half of A.Squared) and we were blindsided by both family and ‘friends’. 

When you have a wedding, it’s supposed to be the happiest time in your life, but there are a lot of bumps along the way. Imagine flying down a Rocky Mountain in a little red wagon, because it’s comparable to that. 

So now, I’ll share with you our experiences.

I invited a couple to my wedding who I thought we were friends with. When asking for their new address, they made it very, very clear we weren’t friends anymore. Ok, cool. But it didn’t stop there. They proceeded to throw stuff in our face that had no connection to the invitation itself or them being invited, things that had nothing to do with them and things that were over 1-1.5 years old. I was upset at first about the whole thing because they knew what my circumstances were and disregarded them, but now, I’m relieved. Two less people to pay for and toxicity is gone from my life. 

My partner had family issues. I won’t get into too much detail but basically her future sister-in-law ruins everything, and her future mother and father-in-law make everything difficult, including withholding money from them to finish paying off the wedding. Money they were promised, that was acquired at a special party to raise money for their wedding. 


The point here is, weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people and there’s nothing you can do about it. You have to let it roll of your back and roll with the punches because they’re going to keep coming no matter what you do. Grab a glass of wine and let it go. 

Remember that it’s your day. You’re the most important person and whatever you want goes. Don’t be afraid to speak up and take charge. Don’t let anyone take anything away from you or your day. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,


A.Squared

Adulting · Family · In-laws · invitations · Love · Opinions · RSVP · Uncategorized · Wedding · wedding invitations · Wedding Planning

Invitations/RSVP’s… Part 3?


Ok.

Here’s the thing. Getting an invitation to a wedding doesn’t mean you get to ask for special things, unless you have a food allergy/need. That you can have without a problem.

What you can’t have is an extra invitation for people you want to invite. If you want to pay for this 20+ grand wedding, by all means invite whoever you want, but if you’re not, kindly shut up. 

If it’s an adults only wedding, please don’t ask to bring your kids because the answer is no. If you were given an invitation without a guest, it’s ok to ask why but don’t demand you get to bring a guest. The reason you didn’t get one is because you’re probably not dating anyone or the person you are dating is a terrible human being. I mean, I don’t know you but those are two pretty good reasons. 


And to the brides and the grooms out there, because you too mess up on occasion, for the love of god, have an open bar. If you don’t, you can’t really expect people to give you a nice gift (in NY, we do cash). You can’t expect people to come to your wedding, give you cash, and then continue to open their wallets to enjoy themselves… or get through your horrifically boring wedding. Just sayin’. 


Keep it classy. Everyone. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,


A.Squared

Adulting · Family · Love · Opinions · Uncategorized · Wedding · Wedding Planning

Guestbook!


Don’t get a boring guestbook that people will inevitably forget to sign… or that you’re going to forget about. It’s going to collect dust in your attic and you probably won’t be able to read most of he handwriting in it anyway because people will be signing at weird angles because the tables a weird height and there’s no chair. 

Opt for a more modern version of the guestbook. 

Here are a few of my favorite ideas:


These are great alternatives AND you can hang them in your home as decorations and enjoy them FOREVER!

Plus, they’re interactive and really fun. And they’ll even give your wedding a little extra flair. 

After all, no one wants to be boring, especially on their wedding day!

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

Adulting · Love · Opinions

The Feels…


I know its been a while since we’ve been back to update you on whats going on in life but, with two weddings coming up, just a few months apart, we’ve been a little busy!

Anyway, I was just reflecting on life and it’s pretty intense.

So many friends have come and gone, friends I thought I would have forever, and it blows my mind. There are still moments where I wish I could call up one of my old best friends just to tell them something that happened, and then I remember, sadly, that I haven’t spoken to her in… years. And then, I remember again that it wasn’t my fault that the friendship ended. It was a mutual decision, though unspoken, that just unfolded before us before we knew what happened. One day we woke up and four years passed us by without a single word. Still, all this time later, it stings.

Relationships. When I look back on all of the guys I dated before I found my future husband, half the time I wonder what I was thinking and the other half… my only excuse is I must have been drunk. Don’t get me wrong, some of them were great and they taught me lots of things like what I don’t want and how to put my foot down to get what I deserve. I truly believe that all of those relationships that went horribly wrong helped me grow as a person, made me stronger, and made me understand what I deserve and what I need, and a few years ago, I found exactly that. If I would have met my fiance any sooner, I don’t think I would have been the same person, and I don’t think we would have been as perfectly compatible as we are. So, every miserable jerk that I dated and every one that was a good guy has set me up for the perfect guy, and I couldn’t be happier or luckier to be with him today.

Now, in just a few months I’ll get to marry the most perfect guy I could have ever asked for, who has been with me through the hardest of times, who I love more than I thought possible.

So, the advice I have after all of this is, if you feel somethings wrong, it probably is, so move on. If you feel he isn’t giving you 100% or treating you the way you deserve to be treated, move on. If he doesn’t go out of his way to make sure you know he loves you, move on. Life is too short to stay in a relationship hoping that it will get better. It probably wont because at this point, you’ve both already fallen into rolls that are too hard to change.

Don’t give up. Wait for the man who sweeps you off of your feet and makes you feel as beautiful and amazing as you are.

 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

Adulting · College · Grad school · Graduate School · Masters Degree · Opinions · Student debt · Student loans

Graduate School

Going for your masters degree online is one of the most annoying things in the entire world. Like, is it even worth it to have a decent job anymore?

Group projects? I’m a f*cking adult capable of doing my own work. Why do I have to engage in this preposterous activity and also rely on complete strangers to carry their own weight?


And then when they don’t because they’re useless, I have to pick up the slack and they still get credit even though I filled out a complaint form with supporting documents such as emails and text messages with them admitting to not doing any work!


I’m a little bitter, if you couldn’t tell. 

Moving on…

The discussions. Please, kill me. I can only respond to so many ridiculous posts. If the initial post is thoughtless or incoherent, how am I supposed to respond? I don’t even know what you’re saying, so I can’t possibly answer you… but I have to have a minimum of 8 responses done per week, on 4 or more different days. So it’s a struggle just to make 8, and just to be inconvenient, they can’t all be done on one day. Thanks. Thanks for making online classes more annoying by creating an ‘attendance’ tracker. 

Speaking of discussions, they’re discussions. They’re not ‘copy the entire chapter from the online book and post it as your discussion’. I get super irritated when a post is too long and it fills up more than the entire screen, causing the blue ‘unread’ dot to stay present on the thread. 

I might have a touch of OCD. 

Actually I have OCD. I DID A GROUP PROJECT ON IT LAST WEEK!

For the love of god, if you’re going for your masters, you should just be smarter. Period. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

Adulting · Growing up · Opinions · Wedding · Wedding Planning

Bridal Party

Picking your bridal party is kind of a big deal. First, you have to pick a maid of honor and a best man. Then you have to pick a group of people that mean a lot to you and people you want standing by your side for the most important moment of your life. 

Now, if you’re lucky, you have a sister and you don’t have to hurt anyone’s feelings when picking a MOH. If you have 2 sisters, you can have two MOH’s. If you have more than that, I’m sorry for your dad. If you don’t have any sisters but you have best friends, it can be a very tough decision. You want them to all be part of your day but you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or make anyone feel like they don’t matter as much as the others. Make sure you really think about who you want right next to you when you marry your best friend before you say anything to anyone. It’s a delicate situation and you should treat it as such. 

For the dudes, they don’t care as much. They’re not as sensitive and honestly, they’re probably there for the open bar so those decisions for best-man and groomsmen will be done so fast you’ll get whiplash. And you’ll feel crappy that it’s taking you so long. 

Now, in a perfect world you have your bridal party set, you have your MOH and best-man picked out. Life is good, right? 

Probably not. 

Now you have to figure out he order of your girls and guys after the MOH and best-man. Not a big deal… or is it? I don’t know about anyone else but this has been an ongoing discussion between me and my fiancé. We have a pretty big bridal party… not like 10 people big, but I’d say larger than normal. Within the bridal party there are couples because we have mutual friends. So, what do you do when one side of the couple means more than the other? Do you let go of emotional attachments and let them walk together because they’re a couple or do you put them in order of most important to least important? Or in order of who you’ve known the longest? Or by height? These seem like stupid questions and issues to have in the grand scheme of wedding planning, but they’re real… oh are they ever real…

I say, put your bridal party in order of importance. If they line up with their significant other, good for them. If not, it’s your day so who gives a crap? When they’re introduced at the reception they can walk with their significant other, but during the ceremony, I want my lineup from most important (and coincidentally length of relationship) to least important. Now, this doesn’t mean that some people aren’t important, it just means you’re putting people in an order that makes sense. 

Don’t get hung up on this. It will actually drive you crazy. Take my advice. Have the ones you’ve known the longest closest to you because they’ve helped you through more things and they just mean more, and they deserve to be closer to you when you’re marrying your soulmate. 

Save the loss of your sanity for planning out the seating chart. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared

Adulting · Growing up · Opinions · Uncategorized · Wedding · Wedding Planning

Everyone Has Something to Say…


Everything you’re doing is wrong and your wedding is going to be a disaster…
Well, that’s what everyone else wants you to think because they obviously know what you want and what you should have on your special day better than you do right?

Wrong. 

People are going to question everything you do if it’s not like their wedding, or not like a traditional wedding… so prepare yourself for that right now. They’ll also make suggestions that they will be offended about later because you didn’t take them.

#reallife #thanksbutnothanks #donttellmehowtolivemylife

Anyway, generally people like to think they’re smarter than they are and they also enjoy their own voices. I’ve learned in my years of dealing with unsavory people that the minute you start talking about yourself, self-centered people tend to shut up and leave you alone. And the people trying to stick their noses in your wedding are usually self-centered.

If you don’t use a Limo because, after all, they’re not required for a wedding-especially if your ceremony is at the same location of your venue-you will be judged. If you chose to use paper flowers instead of real ones because the logical part of your brain couldn’t see ripping $7,500 to bits, you’re going to be judged. A short wedding dress? You must be insane. No sit down dinner? Is this even a wedding?

But, don’t be fooled, if your wedding is by-the-books perfect, you’ll still be judged. There will always be a miserable hag at every wedding trying to make everyone else miserable too so please, don’t listen and don’t take it personally. 

Not everyone gets to meet their soulmate in life. 

There will be jealous people too, obviously, because your fabulous. And also because maybe they can’t afford something or they wish they had a fiancé as awesome as you do. They’ll make comments like ‘I’m never having a wedding, it’s such a waste of money’, or ‘Why did you need that? That’s excessive/unnecessary’, or ‘I’d never spend that much on that.’ Keep your composure because they’re already unhappy and suffering on the inside. 

And there will always be one person who compares your wedding to someone else’s. You’ll hear it multiple times while planning and probably long after it’s over because some people can’t understand that you’re your own person, so try to tune it out. Or, if you’re bold, which girlfriend (snap, snap) I know you are, stand up to this monster and say so-and-so’s wedding wasn’t mine for a reason!

Keep your head up and do you! And if you’re ever unsure, have some wine and enjoy some liquid confidence to get you through wedding planning. 


#winedowndaily

Much love and good luck ladies and gents,

A.Squared