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Ranking and Raving!

So I belong to a Facebook group for Brides… basic, I know. 


That group has actually been my saving grace. I’ve gotten so many tips and great ideas from that page and I’d be lost without them. 

With that being said, it’s also extremely infuriating at times. Some girls on there talk about how their parents pay for everything and life is great, and good for them, but don’t tell me you’re stressed out trying to come up with money to pay for flowers and that’s it. If all you have to pay for for your wedding is flowers, get a handle on your amazon addiction, and pay for  them. You won’t get sympathy from me as my fiancé and I are workin full time and part time jobs to pay for our wedding by ourselves because we’re not financially dependent on anyone, not even each other. 

If your parents want to and can help you, that’s awesome. Trust me I’m not salty… ok I’m a little salty, but honestly good for you. Just don’t act like a helpless idiot when you have to actually pay for something when the bulk of your wedding is taken care of. It’s not a good look. It really isn’t. If anything I feel more bad for you than salty. And if your parents are that well off, give them my number. They can donate to my wedding and attend too. 

 

All I’m saying is, we’re all adults here. Let’s act like it. Accept your responsibilities and handle them without being a baby because it makes people dislike you. That it. 



Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared 

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Friendships. 

This ones about friendship. 

I’ve been told that you find out who your real friends are when you get married, but I had no idea how true that was until I started planning my own. 

If you accept the bride and grooms request to be in their bridal party, you’re accepting the financial obligation that it is. You can’t get mad when you have to spend money. You can’t get mad when asked to participate in a wedding related event. You can’t get mad when things are required of you.

Weddings are expensive. Being a part of a wedding is also expensive. It’s not a surprise, so don’t act surprised when you have to pay for things. 

Also, it helps NOT to lie to the couple at all. You never know, they may actually know the truth before you lie. And then you look like a fool. 

And for the record, it’s really shitty if you’re the only bridesmaid that doesn’t participate or doesn’t make themselves part of the group. The bride picked you for a reason, don’t make her regret it. Being a bridesmaid is an honor because it means you’re important to the bride. She should be important enough to you to to be treated with respect.  

With that said, get your damn hair and makeup done because regardless of what you think about you skills, they’re nowhere near good enough to be professional. and make sure you’re there when everyone’s getting ready. Don’t come late. 
Remember, it’s not about you. Don’t be a jerk and make the bride fire you. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared 

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Wedding Rants. 


RSVP’s have a due date. They also have a self addressed, stamped envelope for you to mail back your RSVP. PLEASE, tell me why it’s so hard to put it in the mailbox? You check your mail every day, just throw it in there!

Don’t send it to me 2 weeks late and expect me to squeeze you into the seating chart cause it’s not happening! And don’t think that just telling me you’re coming is sufficient. We invited 200+ people and I can’t remember if I ate breakfast at this point so send the damn RSVP! 

Next. Don’t let shitty people get you down. They will try, some of them won’t even realize they’re doing it (but believe, some do). Let it roll off your back. They feed off your feelings. Don’t let them see their negative attitudes phase you. 

Don’t wait til the last minute to do your centerpieces because it’s stressful and no one wants to help because everyone’s selfish. I’m kidding, but seriously, were 45 days out and I have ONE free weekend between now and the wedding and I have 300 things to do on that ONE. SINGLE. DAY.
 
No problem. I got this. 

After that I just need jewelry, an undergarment, a strapless bra, shoes… basically everything except the actual dress.

Ladies, do everything early. You can never do anything too early. 

That’s all I got for today. I’m so stressed out I don’t even know who I am right now. And it one more person tells me everything is going to work out I’m going smash their faces in because that’s useless advice!


Much love ladies and gentlemen,



A.Squared

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Weddings Bring Out The Worst In People. 

Shout out to the friends who you don’t have to be in constant contact with. 
Having a wedding really brings out the worst in people. It certainly brings out the best in some people, but what you don’t hear about is how horrible people are… people that you thought were friends and even people you’re related to so, don’t be surprised if you get let down.

I’m not saying this to be mean or ruin your special day, I’m saying it because no one told me (and the other half of A.Squared) and we were blindsided by both family and ‘friends’. 

When you have a wedding, it’s supposed to be the happiest time in your life, but there are a lot of bumps along the way. Imagine flying down a Rocky Mountain in a little red wagon, because it’s comparable to that. 

So now, I’ll share with you our experiences.

I invited a couple to my wedding who I thought we were friends with. When asking for their new address, they made it very, very clear we weren’t friends anymore. Ok, cool. But it didn’t stop there. They proceeded to throw stuff in our face that had no connection to the invitation itself or them being invited, things that had nothing to do with them and things that were over 1-1.5 years old. I was upset at first about the whole thing because they knew what my circumstances were and disregarded them, but now, I’m relieved. Two less people to pay for and toxicity is gone from my life. 

My partner had family issues. I won’t get into too much detail but basically her future sister-in-law ruins everything, and her future mother and father-in-law make everything difficult, including withholding money from them to finish paying off the wedding. Money they were promised, that was acquired at a special party to raise money for their wedding. 


The point here is, weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people and there’s nothing you can do about it. You have to let it roll of your back and roll with the punches because they’re going to keep coming no matter what you do. Grab a glass of wine and let it go. 

Remember that it’s your day. You’re the most important person and whatever you want goes. Don’t be afraid to speak up and take charge. Don’t let anyone take anything away from you or your day. 

Much love and good luck ladies and gentlemen,


A.Squared